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Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Since When Did You Become a Puppet?


By Benny Trrouble Goodman

            Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for being in a happy relationship.  If you’re in one, congratufrigginlations.  No, seriously.   That’s awesome.  But for real, how annoying is it when you find out your friends are just secretly turning into puppets because their significant others have them on lockdown?  You know the drill.  You’re best friends one minute, you hang out all of the time, you do things together and have a blast.  Then all of a sudden, they start seeing someone and it’s like they just morphed into some kinda puppet and/or toolshed.  They’re watching shows like 90210 and having Twilight marathons instead of listening to Pantera and comin’ out and throwin’ down with their boys.  Again, don’t get me wrong, I love when people are happy but I hate when it’s at the expense of their personality, friends, dignity, balls, and individual thoughts.


          Girls sometimes wonder why guys get shady.  Not every guy is trying to be shady but sometimes things that are totally normal piss their girlfriends off.  Realize this, just because a guy hits the bars with his friends doesn’t mean he’s gonna go out on a seek and destroy mission to fuck some girl just because his friends are man-whores.  Just because he’s hanging out with some girl he’s known from ten years before he even  started dating your controlling ass doesn’t mean they secretly have some fuck sessions going on behind your back!  All too often I watch my friends go down in flames because their girlfriends (or boyfriends) start making rules of what they can and cannot do.  Are you serious?  What are we, five years old now? 
            Bottom line is that if you have to restrict someone in how they act, who they hang with or what they can do, you definitely have serious trust issues and you either need to fix them or just move along for all of our sake.  If you can’t go to a party without being a buzzkill or if you turn my perfectly good friend into a castrated princess, seriously, stop being an icy whore.  You might be able to keep them on their best behavior for a while but that kinda mentality causes guys to snap.  It also puts wear and tear on all of their relationships so when they finally dump your ass they end up having to do some sucking up.  Seriously, work on your trust and stop trying to put a fence around our lives, all you’re doing is turning your boyfriend (and my friend) into a little bitch, just like his new mommy.

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

kudos, and well said!

Kellz <3

Anonymous said...

Lol all on a bus...

Anonymous said...

Soooooooo true

Nikki said...

I hate when this happens with girls too. Like the minute your best friend starts dating a guy she immediately has no more time for you, and can't hang out because the guy's got her kissing the ground he walks on. And then when they inevitably break up and she gets her heart broken she comes crawling back to you like your best buds again. Ladies, embrace your self esteem and don't let guys do this!! Be your own person and be independent! Maybe some guys like boot lickers but at the end of the day, YOU'RE the one eating dirt...

Anonymous said...

are your "friends" girlfriend(s)really whores /bitches or is that just how you chose to label them? whatever valididity your point may have had was lost to me once you felt the need to insult.If your intent was to hurt someone's feelings then i am quite sure you are the victor. kudos to you.

The Deal said...

To answer your question, yes, the "type" of people, not people in particular, that I'm writing about are bitches. Its meant to show disdain because of what that type of person does to their significant other. That was the whole point I was trying to make. It wasn't meant to be warm n' fuzzy.

Devin McGuire said...

DUDE - That was SOOO AMANDA!!! Thank the Gods that bitch ios gone, and I am more myself than ever!
I think someone that you have in your life is someone who accepts you for you, and doesn't want to change you, but for some reason you yourself wants to change for the better for that person. Not appeasing them and watching shitty movies, or changing your likes in music or anything, but more so to stop bad vices in your life, or to improve your mind, body, and/or soul. But even if you don't change for them, they wil still accept and love the fuck out of you (literally).

Devin McGuire said...

It's fine when you like the person, but if they are manipulating your friend, then it totally fucking sucks - plus it's fun when you can bust on them(friend and other) for watching a movie like Twilight, or watching a show like 90210. =D - but sometimes you gotta take one for the team because not every chick likes Pantera, and not every dude likes Usher - there is room for compromise, but no room for control.

euro80 said...

I posted this article on my fb page cause i think it's right on. A bud I had called me out on it saying that i was jealous and i dont understand relationships cause i was never able to make one last. Seriously?? I may be single now, but ive been in plenty of relationships and if my memory serves me correctly, I recall past gf's not likin this particular "friend" and would tell me to stop hangin with him. Did I drop him? NO...Why?...because that was my boy...There were plenty of friends of ex's that i didnt like at all..i dealt with them though cause i cared about her. I would never forbid them to hang with them cause they were her girls and they made her happy. If you really cared about your girl/guy, why would you try to take away a friendship they had that makes them happy? thats fucked up......

euro80 said...

another thing...if a guy and girl have been friends for a very long time...its very unlikely that somethings gonna happen between them. In my case, I had a close female friend for more than a decade (that a very fuckin long time)...we were very tight..she was like a sister to me and vice versa...until maybe 2 years ago...when she met some loser that literally gave her an altermatum...making her choose between him and staying friends with me...very insecure douchebag...my fave thing was he was mad cool with me everytime we chilled....anyway,.she chose him and demolished a very close PLATONIC bond without even standin up to him....my thing is,,,if i was goin to fuck her i would have already...i did say more than a decade, right? u have to be a complete pussy not doin anything in that span of time if u act wanted something to happen...come on..for real..dont get me wrong, i wish her nothing but happiness but its very sad the way things unraveled because of his insecurities...its mind boggling...im just sayin....

The Deal said...

Euro80, thanks so much for the insight! Maybe u should be sending us a blog of your own?

euro80 said...

maybe i should...those were just the cliff notes version...i could ramble on for hours on the topic...normally i dont even leave comments on blogs but when my bud from the past put me on blast on FACEBOOK, (out of all things), it pissed the fuck out of me and triggered me to. all i did was post an article and told ppl to check it cause its true..thats all..didnt mention any names ..cause thats not the kind of person i am....so what was with the commentary? guilty conscience much? Look..things do change when your friends get involved..its just the way it is..and they change even more when they get married..thats for sure...they dont have the time to hang the way they used to...which is all good..but understand this...if you TOTALLY cut out the people you consider good friends because you dont make the time or effort, you will seriously regret it..its called BALANCE people...no one said you have to hang every single day the way u used to but you shouldnt just forget they existed...who had your back since day one? who stood by you through harsh times? who did you rock to metallica with??? and most importantly who will you turn to when youre havin relationship problems? if you let your girl/guy monopolize ALL of your time...you'll wake up one day to realize that you now have noone but them...and thats very unhealthy...couples need to take some time apart to enjoy other things with their own friends...it may be awesome in the beginning of the relationship and all you want to do is spend your every single moment with them...but if u spend ALL your time together..it could eventually cause resentment, boredom, and can possibly deteriorate your relationship....and once again who will you turn to then??? KNOW THIS THOUGH...u may be forgiven the 1st... maybe even 2-3 times (and thats pushin it)...you disappear because youre in a relationship...but if it keeps on happening...your friendships will be <<>>.....

euro80 said...

one final thought...if youre gf/bf controls who u kick it with early on in your relationship imagine what its gonna be like years later...youre gonna be their BITCH for life...and if theyre insecure and jealous...what makes you think theyre ever goin to COMPLETELY trust you?? isnt trust the basis of a good relationship??

euro80 said...

also...if your new love interest has a friend of the opposite sex that you think is hotter/better lookin than yourself....my advice to you...GET OVER IT!! Ive had ex-girls goin on jealous rampages over it..telling me that it makes them feel uncomfortable and blah blah blah...and i was suppose to do what? cut them out of my life disregarding all the great advice they had given me along the years on the girls perspective of the spectrum...pause...LAUGH...im sorry...but i have BALLS...why cant they understand that i wouldnt be with them if they werent hot...theres nothin to be jealous about...have confidence in yourself or all your relationships will be doomed...and that goes for dudes as well...i dont want to come across as arrogant but im considered to be a good lookin dude, over 6 feet (which is rare for a greek), well dressed, etc....and guys r so intimidated when their new gf... aka... my good friend..introduces me to them....listen, bro, not steppin on your toes cause if i was tryin to...you wouldnt even be here..if anything, we could have became great friends...but instead u ruin my perfectly good friendship...thanx alot..prick...

The Deal said...

Great stuff man, well put. Im glad you decided to post on this one, I greatly enjoyed reading about u and your experiences.

Anonymous said...

euro80 is the best!!

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