Thursday, October 28, 2010

Grow Some Balls...But Not the Cocky Kind!

By Benny Trrouble Goodman
The most important thing you can know about confidence is that confidence transfers. If you act confident in whatever it is that you do, people are going to be substantially more apt to instill their trust in you. If you don’t seem to know what you’re doing or you’re insecure about it,those feelings will also transfer to the people around you. An absolute imperative in picking up girls ishaving confidence in yourself and being able to successfully exude that confidence. If you exude success people will probably interpret you at face value as being successful which puts you above the average dude and gives you a Jedi start on winning people over.
Being confident should not be misinterpreted as being cocky. The truth is, humility is king, rarely does any girl want to hear you yammer on about how awesome you are, they want you to acknowledge how awesome THEY are and furthermore, they probably have already started to form an opinion on you just based on how you carry yourself and act. If anything, let themask you about how awesome you are because if you are confident enough in how you conduct yourself, they’re probably going to be interested and ask you what they want to know. The point is being humble is important in not looking like a dick. For example, I’m a pretty accomplished guitarist but I don’t walk around telling people I’m the sickest shredder they have ever seen. I let them figure it out for themselves. I let the music do the talking. That doesn’t mean you can’t talk about your passions, but ask yourself, if someone were talking to you about this stuff, what would win you over the most? Bragging? Being a cocky asshole? I think not.
Confidence can be built in many ways. It first starts with your mindset. You have to believe in yourself before you can expect anyone else to believe in you. Find what you’re good at and focus on that. Your personal strengths and acknowledging them is the first step in building your confidence. Also be aware that body language is super important in exemplifying your confidence. Have you ever seen that looser goth kid walking around staring down at their feet? Holding your head high andmaking eye contact are key things in acting confident. Walking around staring at your feet, slumpin’down and laying low only says you’re a dork whose time would be better spent playing World of Warcraft than winning the affection of a hot chick.
The point is that girls are drawn to confidence. Ask yourself, who has a better chance ofgetting a girl to come dance with them at a club: the guy who walks overmeekly, makes a silly compliment like “I like your eyes,” and hesitantly asks if a girl wants to dance OR the guy that walks over on a mission, looks a girl directly in the eye and says “I noticed you from across the room and I think it’s about time we danced.” Don’t get me wrong, you could get shut down with the second comment, too, but it’s a substantially more confident approach that has a way better chance of working. Bottom line, insecurity is lame and most-definitely not attractive. How annoying is it when a super fine girl says something like “I’m so fat, I’m an ugly pig!” You just wanna shake her and be like “have you looked in the mirror lately?” Girls are the same way. They don’t want to hear about how fat you think you are or how you wish you were alittle taller because you’re only 5’6. What they do want to hear is what you’re all about, but you ain’t gonna get to that point if you don’t have a good sense of confidence. So I’ll end this one just as I started:confidence transfers. Now transfer it to some hot broad and get back to me.


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